Tell us a little bit about yourself?
I’m Melissa, you can call me Mel.My day job is inside sales rep, selling fire sprinklers (the kind that save your life not the ones that water your grass lol) I’m passionate about helping women discover their value, crush insecurity, and live worthy. (Creator of Even Vanity Ends.)
What is something you love about yourself?
Whew, if you would’ve asked me this question a year ago i would’ve had a really hard time answering. I’ve always struggled with my physical appearance but I’m learning how to embrace exactly who i am right now in this very moment. So physically, i really enjoy my smile and my laugh lines (and my hair is pretty great too). It sounds weird but my laugh lines are a reminder of joyful moments I’ve experienced and beautiful memories made.Non physical, i would say one thing i love about myself would be the ability to connect with and love people well. Also, I’m pretty darn funny.
Have you struggled with being body positive?
For as long as i can remember I’ve always struggled with accepting my body. When i was younger i was super thin. So thin that my dad took me to the doctor to make sure i wasn’t sick. I didn’t start struggling with being overweight until junior high. My body didn’t look like everyone else’s so i would wear baggy clothes, sweaters in the dead of summer and anything that would cover my extra rolls and curvy hips. This insecurity grew bigger and bigger and followed me all through high school and even crept into my marriage. I finally made a decision to stop bowing down to that insecurity that stripped so much from me. To face the lies that I’ve told myself for so long (you’re ugly, you’re too fat, you’ll never look like her) + to finally start to embrace confidence – understanding that it’s ok to love my body . This journey is still very new for me but every day i choose to embrace my current body — every curve, roll, stretch mark and dimple. I now see my body as a gift. A gift that deserves to be treated as such. My body is and will never be perfect + for once in my life i am totally ok with that.
What does self-love mean to you?
Self love to me means acceptance. It’s a decision that has to be made every single day to give yourself and your body grace. It means taking care of and loving the parts of yourself that you so badly want to hate and pick apart. It’s choosing to honor your body, day in and day out. It’s freedom at its finest.
If you could give women an encouragement for this summer what would it be?
Be free. Free from fear, what people will say, the narrative you’ve created in your head… free from the lies that people have told you and things you’ve told yourself. Wear the bathing suit, go to the beach, go a day without makeup, try something new. Don’t rob yourself of new experiences or adventure because you’re scared of what people might think or say. There is so much goodness waiting for you on the other side of fear. Choose freedom love. I’m championing you every step of the way